Over worked , under-appreciated , but what mom isn’t ? Moms these days literally don’t get enough credit . Sure we may not work out in the hot sun or do “physically demanding” work but have you tried being a mom for a day ? It’s not an easy task , and the pay rate can be shabby ( I’m kidding ) . Its more or less the same thing day-to-day , or at least for me it is . I love it and I honestly wouldn’t trade it for the world , but I am a human & sometimes it does get to be overwhelming .
I’m not a stay at home mom , I have a full-time job , plus I have a 5-year-old and a soon to be 4-year-old . I’m not going to lie and say I’m a “single mom of two” at the moment , all though I was when I started this . I have a boyfriend , he’s for the most part amazing . He can’t find the laundry basket , put the seat down , or make his own sandwiches but I mean there’s plenty he does do . Anyway , enough about him ,back to my rant . On any typical week day my routine is as the following : wake up at 6 ( roll out of bed at 7 ) , get both kids up and moving out of bed , get myself presentable for the day , in most cases this means a messy bun & a semi matching outfit . Get my kids dressed , teeth brushed & hair combed . Most days brushing teeth is comparable to an act of cruel and unusual punishment , some days god is on my side and we manage to get it done with out it resulting in criminal punishments. Get the kids in the car , no matter how many times I tell them to hustle it , they move slower then drying paint . A typical 1 minute walk to the car from our front door usually takes about 10 minutes for them , I don’t blame them , I like to look at butterflies fluttering and ants on the ground as well ( face palm) . we get in the car , I get both kids to school and of course they both attend a different school . I do the mom drop off , I NEVER drop my kids off without telling them I love them , always do that , it makes a world of a difference ! Then I rush off to work hoping ill have enough time to hit up Starbucks . I get to work , run any errands I need to do on my lunch break , get off at 5 p.m , go get both kids from both locations , go home , get started on homework , start dinner , clean up the dishes , feed my kids , do the dishes AGAIN , then its bath time and bed time . Now where in that equation am I supposed to squeeze in time to play and bond with them ? How do other moms have all of this time on their hands to be hands on moms ? Am I a bad mom because some days I don’t have time to play ? Maybe not but it eats at me more than it should . My mom never played with me and I grew up sorta function-able . Anyway , we go to bed and its the same thing again the next day . Ok so what is my point of this rant ? What am I getting at ?
I want moms out there to know that there is no such thing as a perfect mom , this isn’t Hollywood , not everyone can afford a nanny , and you aren’t going to be perfect . The house doesn’t always have to be spotless . Sometimes , sandwiches are ok for dinner , you don’t have to slave over the stove every single night . It’s ok to throw some micro-wavable dinners in the micro wave & call that dinner . Its ok if you let the laundry pile up , we both know it’ll be there for you later . If you don’t make your bed up every day that ok to , just fluff the pillows and brush off all the crumbs before climbing in , no biggie . Its ok to tell your kids you don’t want to read little bo beep to them again for the 87th time that night . Its ok to go in your bathroom and light a candle and put on a face mask , take a few minutes for yourself , even if it is literally a few minutes . Moms have hard jobs on top of the 9-5 jobs that we have . Yes we get rewarded with cute pictures , endless kisses and those amazing stories kids love to tell , and all of those things are priceless , something only a mom can understand. But also keep in mind that moms are humans , we require attention , we have feelings , we have needs , we have life’s outside of home . Always know that what you are doing does not go unnoticed , even if you feel it does . Your kid(s) love you for everything you do , even if sometimes they act ungrateful , that’s what kids do , that’s what they are here for (lol kidding) . Remember , it takes a village to raise a child , you’re taking on the responsibility of another persons life , an amazing little person who hopefully grows up to be a superstar and repays you for all of it . Momin’ ain’t easy . Hell most dads couldn’t do it without written instructions . So , when your feeling over worked and under appreciated , take a deep breath , walk away from the dishes , put down the laundry , stop stressing over getting dinner ready , go make yourself a sandwich & the kids a corn dog and when y’all are done with your gourmet meal , go play together . Start a game of hide and seek , grab spider man and a Barbie and make up a movie scene , or grab a dinosaur and act like a savage . You’re a mom , but you are also a human , more or less a super human . I’m telling you this because I only wish someone would tell me the same thing . I’m not perfect , I cuss , I don’t wear SPF moisturizer & I damn sure don’t pretend like I have it all together , but I do what I can and at the end of the day my kids love me and I love them , and to me that is more important than having a clean house . Again momin’ aint easy , so give yourself a pat on the back & a glass of wine 🙂 .